Separate Yourself From Your Business

In our coaching practices we work with and train many business professionals and entrepreneurs. When we meet someone who is struggling with boundaries, balance and flow in their life we have found a common theme – sometimes people associate themselves too much personally with their business. ‘They’ are the business.

But, that’s not necessarily true. Your job, your business, your hobbies – they are just that: a job, a business, a hobby.

NLP will help you to dissociate personally from your business and step into a more objective role where you are able to find breathing space, make better choices and take it all less personally.

Love Your Work

Not long ago, there was a gentleman in our NLP course in Singapore who had been doing the same job for 37 years, and he had loathed his job for 36 of those years. While talking to him, other than the paycheque he received, he couldn’t think of anything else beneficial to his job.

Unfortunately, he stayed in this job for so long because of the financial reward. It allowed him to take care of his family, provide a lifestyle he desired and pay for the things he and they desired. However, he had to work so much, for so long, and so hard that he barely had time to enjoy the very things the money was giving him.

He relished the weekends from Friday afternoon until Sunday evening. Starting after work on Friday his mood would improve, he would become more positive, powerful and creative. It was during the weekends (or when on holiday), that he would dream of his future and possibilities and hope. Then, Sunday evening would roll around and his mood changed, his behaviours changed and he went into work mode, which, from his description sounded

a lot like angry-depression; he would stay in this mood until it was time again for the weekend. During the week, he had no energy or time or desire to dream or be creative to work toward his real goals and desires.

Part of his desire to learn NLP was to figure out a way to create a new path, in fact, what made his heart sing is the idea of being an NLP Coach and building a Wellness Centre with other Coaches and Allied Health Practitioners. He did gain a roadmap to begin his journey to becoming a coach, but being practical, he kn

ew that it would take a while before he could quit his well-paying job to change career paths. So, an interim goal became to enjoy his job again.

To do this, he first looked at his values of his current role – which he deemed now as a ‘filler-job’. He identified that the financial reward was indeed important, but he also was doing a job he had skills for, that was helping others and working in a team. All things he had dismissed before. He also looked at his emotional states and collapsed anchors that moved him into negative sates, and created new anchors that helped to access positive and resourceful states.

As long as a role is fulfilling your values and a positive or resourceful emotional state is being accessed, then you can fall in love with any job, role, situation, person, place or thing. NLP helped this gentleman to look forward to going to his filler-job – and he no longer loathed the work or the people or the concept. He knew it was just temporary. Because of this mood and energy shift, during the week his is studying, practicing and planning for his Coaching Business to take off at the end of the year.

Your mind is amazing – and we are creatures of habit. A good, and bad thing, is that habits are fairly easy to create. When you can get your mindset right, then you can love the work you do and do it well!

Manage others more effectively

Managing and leading others is sometimes a challenging task, especially if you have a team of people who are quite different to one another. Effective management skills start with a better understanding of the people on your team, and by that, we mean understanding their beliefs, what is important to them, what motivates them, what pushes their buttons and slows them down – and how to manage that person in the way they need to be directed.

Management is an individual game – each person generally needs to be lead in a slightly different way because of his or her model of the world. The ultimate respect you can give to someone is when you realise you need to get the same outcome for the whole team, but lead people differently to arrive at the same destination.

Unfortunately, the business world doesn’t do a good job of training people to be managers. People get promoted because they were good at their previous job, or they start their own company, or create their own team – and boom! They are a manager. The skills of NLP will help you to fast-track your interpersonal communication skills, coaching abilities and leadership qualities!

Improve recruitment strategies

Employee retention can be greatly improved by hiring the right people in the first place. Unfortunately, too many old school recruitment techniques are still being used. I (Heidi) cringe whenever I hear “what do you think your strengths and weakness are”, or “give me an example in a previous job when you X”. Capability and behaviour based interviews don’t always find the best candidates for your roles.

Recruitment generally works by soliciting resumes, looking through those resumes for someone who has the skillset or background that you are looking for, and when you get them in front of you, during the interview you’re looking for ‘are they the right fit’.

What does that mean? The right fit? Is that skills or person? Skills can be taught, mindset is a harder thing to train. Have you ever seen the most competent and skilled person hired for a job, but they still didn’t fit somehow? That’s mindset.

With NLP, we look at a variety of unconscious filters that you can easily identify while talking to another person – and we match those to the filters that might be required for the job, the workplace, the team and the way the person will be managed.

Instead of asking about a behavioural aspect, ask instead “tell me about an aspect of your current/past job that you truly enjoyed” – this will give you insight into the persons mindset. From NLP you will gain skills and knowledge about how to create a recruitment plan for your business to ensure the right-minded person with the right skills is being hired.

Set yourself up for more business success

Regardless of what kind of ‘business’ you are in, NLP can help you set yourself up for more success. It doesn’t matter if you own a business, are a receptionist, sales person, parent, artist, coach, trainer, shelf stocker – you are in charge of your mind. A couple of years ago Sarah completed our NLP Level 1 trainings with zero intention to use it in her job because “well, I’m just an admin”; her intention was simply to help herself to communicate better, run her mind/body more effectively and improve her relationships. Well, she did all of that – and more!

With NLP, you’ll not only learn a superb goal setting tool, you’ll also be able to adjust your behaviours, thoughts and beliefs to match the outcome you want. Sarah learned that in her personal life, when she was focusing on what she wanted and when she addressed any blocks or limitations that were stopping her she was able to easily move through them. So, she decided to try her hand at using NLP at work.

She set a Success Goal – her first goal was for others to give her verbal feedback about her improved performance. In reality, she didn’t change her performance at all – she changed her attitude toward her performance! In turn, she began getting positive feedback. Her next goal was to get a promotion to a Senior Administration role – within a few months, she got that! Sarah continued on to the Level 2 NLP training and she learned about the Disney Planning Process and she decided it was time to fast-track her work success, since she hadn’t prioritised it earlier in her career. She’s recently been promoted again, this time into the marketing department of her company – she is working directly for the Senior Manager, learning a lot and using her NLP skills every day in her work, and for herself at work.

What you put your mind to, you can achieve – and with NLP you can make sure your success psychology is aligned with what you desire!

Improve Your Recruitment Strategies with NLP

Employee retention can be greatly improved by hiring the right people in the first place. Unfortunately, too many old school recruitment techniques are still being used. I (Heidi) cringe whenever I hear “what do you think your strengths and weakness are”, or “give me an example in a previous job when you X”. Capability and behaviour based interviews don’t always find the best candidates for your roles.

Recruitment generally works by soliciting resumes, looking through those resumes for someone who has the skillset or background that you are looking for, and when you get them in front of you, during the interview you’re looking for ‘are they the right fit’.

What does that mean? The right fit? Is that skills or person? Skills can be taught, mindset is a harder thing to train. Have you ever seen the most competent and skilled person hired for a job, but they still didn’t fit somehow? That’s mindset.

With NLP, we look at a variety of unconscious filters that you can easily identify while talking to another person – and we match those to the filters that might be required for the job, the workplace, the team and the way the person will be managed.

Instead of asking about a behavioural aspect, ask instead “tell me about an aspect of your current/past job that you truly enjoyed” – this will give you insight into the persons mindset. From NLP you will gain skills and knowledge about how to create a recruitment plan for your business to ensure the right-minded person with the right skills is being hired.