Overcome Fears

Fears are a natural and important aspect to life – at their core fears exist to keep us alive. If you think of the ‘flight or fight’ mechanism that is built in within all of us, this is generally triggered by a fear of sorts.

And, while fears are a normal part of life, and can be quite useful – they can also get in our way and interfere from us achieving what we truly want and desire. Many fears are mostly irrational – I can’t think of a single case in history where someone has been killed by public speaking, for example!

Regardless of if a fear is rational or irrational, NLP can assist you to overcome any fear that is holding you back. It might be a fear of public speaking, fear of not being good enough, fear of failure, fear of heights, spiders, dogs, mice, etc. – they can all be transformed using NLP.

Simply – everything in our awareness (physical or mental) goes through a filtering process based on our history, beliefs, ideas, values, and concepts of life and our brain automatically creates and secretes a chemical for everything. For fear, two main hormones are created and released – adrenaline and cortisol, the more chemicals released into your system, the stronger the fear will be.

Various NLP techniques will help you to address, change and re-evaluate past events, beliefs, values, ideas and emotions to create a new neurological connection. This, in-turn changes the chemicals your brain creates and secretes. So, if a person did have  a fear of public speaking – NLP could address the patterns of emotions, behaviours and thoughts so that public speaking no longer triggers the reaction of fear!

A great thing to keep in mind when talking about fears – you are in charge of your mind and therefore your results! If fear is not serving you in your life – you have the ability to change it.

Change Unwanted Habits and Behaviours

Have you ever had an unwanted habit or behaviour that you wanted to change? Maybe it was procrastination, or disorganisation, or being quick to anger. Or maybe it was more of a physical behaviour like smoking, biting your nails or emotional eating.

A great thing about NLP is that you will learn how your unconscious programs lead directly to the behaviours you have in life – both the positive and negative behaviours. You will learn not just how to identify these behaviours and underlying patterns, but you’ll learn how to change these unwanted habits and behaviours.

The mind is very ritualistic in many ways, and works best with habits and routines; in fact, habits are very easy to create – but not always as easy to change! Often we hear people say they continue with the old unwanted habit or behaviour because they don’t know what they would rather do, they don’t have the will power or resolve to change or they tried but it didn’t work.

We know that with NLP, if you have a strong enough desire, the HOW you make a change is easy. And, with some of the simple tools NLP has, you will be able to create quick and long lasting changes to behaviours and habits that are no longer serving you. The longer term benefit of this is that you will have practical tools that will help you to direct your thoughts, actions and behaviours and ultimately have the power over your own life and mind.

With NLP we have helped people change so many behaviours and habits in their lives – if something isn’t working for you and if you want to change, you can use NLP to change it! This might help you to quit smoking, putting yourself down, apologising unnecessarily, drinking too much, forgetting to put the lid on the toothpaste, driving too fast, reacting instead of being proactive, stop procrastinating, getting nervous, or any other behaviour that isn’t in alignment with what you want in your life.

The first step is simply to choose which behaviour or habit to transform first!

Collapse Old Anchors

When we are talking NLP language, an anchor is a stimulus that creates a response. For example, a certain song might create a happy or a sad response. The smell of roses might take you back to your wedding day. The sunshine might trigger a sense of happiness and a stormy day may trigger sadness or withdrawal.

Ultimately, anytime you have a conditioned response occur, that is an anchor.

Sometimes, the responses we have do not serve us in a beneficial way. If, for example, something triggers fear or depression or anxiety – you might be better of without that anchor. In fact, most fears we have (fear of dogs, public speaking, failure, heights, flying, etc.), in their basic element is an anchor of some sort.

NLP contains tools that will help you to collapse old anchors; diffusing them so they no longer affect you. So the dog no longer creates fear, you can feel happy on a stormy day, the baby crying no longer makes you angry – and neither does the bad driver you are behind on the road!

Not only can NLP help you to collapse anchors that are not serving you, if you have beliefs or behaviours associated with the anchor, you can help change these old patterns of thought and action to help set you up for a new desired state.

Get to Know Yourself

How well would you say you know yourself? Interestingly, the majority of your patterns of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs are largely unconscious – and are simply a part of what we do and how we act and how we behave. But, what if each and every thing you do is based on your programming? Would you know all of those programs? Or do you think you live life on auto-pilot?

If you’ve ever heard anyone say something like “oh, that’s just how I am” – this is a loud alarm that really says, I don’t really know myself – I just do whatever happens and call it fate.

We tend to underestimate the importance of knowing ourselves. Many of us go through each day reacting to events and just getting by rather than making choices based on who we are and what we want. One of the most common remarks we hear from our students after they begin to learn NLP is “I truly understand and know myself more now – so now, I can respect my model of the world”.

In NLP, this is a presupposition or assumption – to respect another person’s model of the world. But, first and foremost, NLP will help you to understand and respect your own.

Your Model of the world is made up of your history, memories, values, beliefs, concepts, imagination, and something we call meta programs – which are unconscious filters though which you make sense of your world through. With NLP, you will learn not only more about what is important to you, what you belief, how your behaviours help or hold you back – you’ll also be able to figure out why you do what you do. You’ll learn how to change what isn’t working for you and enhance what it.

Unfortunately, not knowing yourself well can lead to confusion and wasting much time with indecision second guessing. However, when you know what motivates you, how to make better decisions, what is important to you and how to change aspects that hold you back, something magical can happen. That something magical is that YOU can not only better understand yourself, you can become your own best friend!

Create more internal awareness

Sensory acuity is a great skill to have with others and the world around you, it is also an exceptional tool to have for yourself. Too many people don’t put their own needs first and they don’t recognise when their mind/body are communicating to them.

With NLP and sensory acuity skills, you will also learn to tune more into yourself. You’ll be able to listen and trust your unconscious mind more, notice more of your intuition, be clearer in your mind and more determined in your way of being.

What we’ve found is when our students start to apply their sensory acuity skills with themselves, they begin to better respect their own model of the world and start to give them what they need. Imagine really being able to understand what you need from yourself!

And guess what, those little aches and pains, or a headache, or hunger when you’re stressed, or the need for a cigarette, or depression or anxiety – all of that is your body’s way to communicate to you. Won’t it be great to have the tools available to truly be able to listen to yourself in a new and more powerful way!

Get to Know Yourself

How well would you say you know yourself? Interestingly, the majority of your patterns of emotions, behavoiours, and beliefs are largely unconscious – and are simply a part of what we do and how we act and how we behave. But, what if each and every thing you do is based on your programming? Would you know all of those programs? Or do you think you live life on auto-pilot?

If you’ve ever heard anyone say something like “oh, that’s just how I am” – this is a loud alarm that really says, I don’t really know myself – I just do whatever happens and call it fate.

We tend to underestimate the importance of knowing ourselves. Many of us go through each day reacting to events and just getting by rather than making choices based on who we are and what we want. One of the most common remarks we hear from our students after they begin to learn NLP is “I truly understand and know myself more now – so now, I can respect my model of the world”.

In NLP, this is a presupposition or assumption – to respect another person’s model of the world. But, first and foremost, NLP will help you to understand and respect your own.

Your Model of the world is made up of your history, memories, values, beliefs, concepts, imagination, and something we call meta programs – which are unconscious filters though which you make sense of your world through. With NLP, you will learn not only more about what is important to you, what you belief, how your behaviours help or hold you back – you’ll also be able to figure out why you do what you do. You’ll learn how to change what isn’t working for you and enhance what it.
Unfortunately, not knowing yourself well can lead to confusion and wasting much time with indecision second guessing. However, when you know what motivates you, how to make better decisions, what is important to you and how to change aspects that hold you back, something magical can happen. That something magical is that YOU can not only better understand yourself, you can become your own best friend!